BEFORE YOU SAY “I CARE ZERO”! 3 REASONS YOU SHOULD CARE ABOUT WHAT GOD SAYS ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP

by Dwania Duhaney-Millen

If it matters at all to you what God wants from your life, (and if you are a Christian reading this blog post, God’s opinion should be your number one priority) I can understand your trepidation as this prospective relationship has come your way. Christian young women all across the world are being snatched up by wrong relationships- those relationships that drive them away from the presence of God and result in spiritual death because of sin. There is a demonic agenda to snatch young women from the presence of God and get them entangled in ungodly relationships. You don’t have to be another statistic, because your Heavenly Father is always ready to show you the way! Ignoring our Heavenly Father’s thoughts about your relationship is mistake number one for any relationship. 

Here are 3 reasons you should care what God has to say to you about this “love connection”.

1. God sees the heart.

Can you see what is going on on the inside of a person? Sometimes, if you inspect your own motives really well you will see why we cannot be trusted. Evaluate your own thoughts and you will realize how selfish, fear-driven, manipulative and inconsiderate you can be. It is the power of God that keeps you from sin. The human heart with all its faults and propensity to be led by the flesh cannot be trusted. The heart of man is desperately wicked. (Jeremiah 17:9) This is enough warning to remind us not to put our trust in our own selves, but to rely on the Lord. 

When Samuel went to Jesse’s house to choose the next king, Samuel wanted to anoint Eliab, but the Lord stopped him because God had rejected him. Here it is in 1 Samuel 16:7: “But the Lord said unto Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” Before you say “I don’t care what God thinks!”, it would do you well to find out if this is God’s choice for you since he knows and sees the heart.

2. God knows what’s ahead!

The Lord can see ahead. It sounds simple, but God knows what is ahead for your marriage. Right now, your heart is fluttering with joy, and everything is absolutely perfect. You think that absolutely nothing can go wrong. In the courtship phase, everybody’s mask is on, so it is very difficult to see who is really underneath the coverup. Marriage is oftentimes the place where the masks come off, and many times what is underneath is disappointing. Perhaps this is one of the reasons for the high rate of divorce- an inability to reconcile who was on the dates with who is in the marriage. Marriage can be blissful, but it can also be a terror if both parties are not fully submitted to God. While some couples manage to work it out, some find it too difficult to do so. God can protect you from harm and danger if you seek Him before rushing to the altar. He knows the future and has laid His good plans and purposes out for you. The Holy Spirit will lead you into all truth, so seek Him. (John 16:13)

3. God loves you!

The love of God can never be stressed enough. God’s love is unconditional, and He cares about every aspect of your life. People love people for many different reasons. People love because of what they can get from a relationship and how much they will receive. People love because of how others make them feel, and if you are sexy enough, pretty enough, enough of a doormat or compliant and docile enough, you will be worthy of love and affection. All of these are conditions, but God loves you without conditions. John 15:13 tells us about the greatness of this love: “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” God’s love is fierce for you, and He wants you to make the right choices. Before you do what you feel, what seems right in your own eyes, what makes sense to your common sense, inquire earnestly of your Heavenly Father who is willing, in all His love for you to give you direction concerning your life. Do not neglect to pray and include God in all your decisions. 

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