Dear Single Sister: ENDING MY 29-YEAR SINGLE JOURNEY AND MEETING MY HUSBAND! (THE FINALE!)

Dwania Duhaney-Millen

My walk with God grew tremendously over the months and years of waiting purposefully and prayerfully before God. I had actually reached the point of letting go completely of any desire to be in a relationship. I told God, “You are the one that I need.” I purposefully looked at each man as my brother, so no matter who it was, I was more concerned about the state of their soul than their interest in me. I was totally focused on God!

God is the Great Orchestrator!

It was Youth Conference 2017, and all the youth from across our church body had gathered for worship at the conference. I was there to sing on the choir, to lead worship and to organize the youth in my group for competitions in the day. On the night of convention, the preacher, Bishop Courtney McLean, asked all of us to gather in a circle to pray, and a group of us gathered together to pray. We all felt the Lord’s presence among us. It was a powerful moment in our night’s convention. The next day at the conference, a close friend of mine sent me a message pointing out a young man (Garvin) to me who she thinks is a really focused and prayerful person. My friend happens to be a good match-maker, but I didn’t know at the time! Because of the state my heart was in at the time however, I told her I was not interested, because I was not going to be chasing anyone. God was going to do His thing on His time. She agreed. That year at the conference, I was invited to attend a worship conference in another part of the island where Min. Chevelle Franklyn would be singing. I got a group of friends together, and we went. As Chevelle sang, I remember she started prophesying. I recall her saying “God can fast forward anyting him wah fast forward.” (God can speed up whatever he wants to speed up.) She went on to speak about relationships and God opening the eyes of some men of God and that while the women worshipped, God would do His part. I agreed. I knew my part was to hold my position and to keep on worshipping.

Little did I know that very soon after, the Lord would quickly bring everything into alignment. “Fastforward” was in motion! Although I did not know it at the time, Garvin, the guy my friend pointed out to me was also on his own journey with God. At the end of the conference, I got the idea to honor our conference coordinator. Because Garvin and his family and other youth among their group of friends knew the coordinator well, I reached out to him to help with the ideas and planning of the event. As Watsapp groups usually go however, people started sending teddy bears and chain messages and all sorts of things to the Watsapp group. Being a person who dislikes idle chatter, he sent me a message to clear that up. At the time, my phone was out of order so I was not able to address the issues right away. When I did get access to my phone to see what was happening, I had to call him to find out what the issue was and to apologize. We spoke a little that night, and I assured him that I would not call him so late in the night again. He told me later that he laughed about that, because he wanted me to call him again.  It turns out that from our conversations about resolving the issues in the group had opened his eyes to how intelligent, well spoken and kind I am. We had known each other for years but had never spoken. We were on the same youth choir but never noticed each other. We were basically invisible to each other, and he was the only person on the choir I had never spoken to. Go figure. God opened his eyes.

Over the days on conversation, we got to hear each other’s values and learn each other’s outlook on life and many things. The outstanding thing however was his love for the Word and passion for purity. He was intent on maintaining a pure walk before God, and I found that to be the most endearing things. I knew I was safe. I had never felt so safe with someone before. I had peace and I knew that God was pleased. Throughout our courtship, I was able to walk through the principles that God taught me in prayer, and thankfully, he passed every test with flying colors. God had brought me to his promised place, and I am so thankful I did not settle for less than God has for me. Today, we are happily married and still maintaining our relationship with God.

God had orchestrated it all.

God’s mysterious ways

In July 2018, ten years later to the month after the situation-ship back in 2008, the Lord had me witness firsthand a young woman (much like myself nearing 18) being pulled into a net like I had been. Incidentally, she was about the same age as I had been, she was a Christian like I was, the lines of conversation were the same and the environment was the same. It was actually 10 years to the month of the start of my own journey. Much like me, she was about to be taken on a journey to a place that God did not desire for her which would have taken her far away from His presence. When I got home that evening, the Lord revealed to me that he was showing me a reflection of myself at that age in need of some wisdom and that I was to write the book, the blog and do whatever I could for young women like her, so here we are, Sis. These are the principles I want to share with you on this blog. I believe that God has some beautiful things planned for you as well. I pray that someday you too will be blessed with a wonderful godly relationship and a marriage full of peace and love and light and that you too will be able to tell someone else that God answers prayers!

Thank you for reading!

D.

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